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Life Updates | PBB Collab + Book Picks + Side Gig

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One thing na tumutulong magpagaan ng araw-araw ko ay PBB. My big winner is Shuvee kaso na-evict na sya huhu. Dalang dala talaga ko sa mga ganaps at parang every episode na lang umiiyak ako. Nagulat rin ako paguwi ko last April kasi hindi ko alam na hooked rin pala yung mga pinsan ko sa PBB. So happy na nagkaron ako ng ka-bonding dito kasi lampake si Kenneth haha.

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Ngayon hindi ko na alam kung sinong duo ang gusto kong maging big winner. Gusto ko si River pero sobrang ayoko kay AZ. Okay naman si Charlie pero ayoko na kay Esnyr. Gusto ko si Will pero ayoko kay Ralph. Dati pareho kong gusto si Mika at Brent pero naayawan ko na si Brent kasi medyo rude sya kay Mika minsan.

Hindi available sa Canada yung mga full episodes ng PBB so umaasa ako sa mabubuting tao sa TikTok na few hours pa lang after the episode airs, uploaded na agad. At hindi sya yung pinaghati-hati sa ilang parts ha, full episodes talaga with decent quality! Thank youuuu!

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Thursday Letter #9 | Expectation vs Reality

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Pag meron akong mga kaibigan na nawalan ng mahal sa buhay, I will say my condolences, sincerely let them know that I’m just here, then give them space. Aantayin ko na lang silang mag-message ulit pag ready na silang makipag-interact sa outside world. Pakiramdam ko kasi yun yung kailangan nila. Ayokong mangulit, ayokong maka-bother, feeling ko pag chinat ko sila ng “Kamusta?” baka mainis lang sila at sabihin nila na, “Ano sa tingin mo?” Pero ngayon na nagkaron ako ng isang major loss sa pagkawala ng lola ko, in my case, mas na-aappreciate ko pala yung kinakamusta ako. Hindi ko pala kelangan ng madaming space. Kasi pag nagsolo lang ako with my grief, ang hirap nyang dalhin mag-isa.

On comforting someone experiencing grief:

I hope we can talk about the truth of the loss, not distract them from that. Because that is what’s going to help them.

The excuse of, “I don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable” but you’re actually making them feel uncomfortable by not speaking about what’s there in plain sight. Don’t be afraid to go to hard places.

— Lori Gottlieb | How to Deal with Difficult Emotions During Tough Times to Support Your Family and Friends Effectively, On Purpose podcast

Nagawa ko ‘to nung nawalan ng kapatid yung kaibigan ko. Siguro dahil sobrang close din namin kaya hindi mahirap sakin to “go to hard places” with her. Kahit few months after, or even years after she lost her younger brother, napaguusapan pa rin namin minsan yung pain at sadness nya. At ngayon na nawalan naman ako ng lola, ganun din sya sakin. Sabi ko sa kanya, kahit ang tagal ko nang pinaghahandaan ‘to at alam ko namang matanda na rin ang Mommy, never pa rin akong naging ready nung nangyari na. At yung pinakamasakit, hindi mo makokontrol yung way ng pagkawala nila. Kahit gano mo pa i-wish na sana hindi sila mahirapan, it’s really out of our hands. Na-comfort ako dun sa sinabi nyang, “Kahit alam naman natin na hiram lang ang buhay, ang hirap-hirap pa rin talaga.” Walang paghahanda ang sapat pag realidad na ang kaharap natin.

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Life Updates | 3 Months in Calgary + Fate and Friendships

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I’m super happy with my current reads. So far, I’ve finished 2 books (Born a Crime and The Omnivore’s Dilemma) and both were easy 5-star reads. My goal each year is to read 1 book a month, and I’m pretty much on track.

Yayy available na sa Libby

Right now, I’m switching it up with fiction and I’m currently reading The Friend Zone by Abby Jimenez. I’m really enjoying it. The kilig is kiliging. People on the internet say that if you love Emily Henry’s books, you’ll probably like Abby Jimenez too—and it looks like they’re right. I’m picky with romance novels so I’m glad to have found another reliable author for my romance fix besides Emily Henry.

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The Subtle Art of Enjoying Alone Time (Without Feeling Lonely)

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Pakiramdam ko ang kalmado nitong mga nakaraang araw. Wala akong maisulat. Hindi ako nilalapitan ng drama, at hindi rin ako lumalapit sa drama. Kung may na-eencounter man akong drama-rama, hindi naman ako yung involved, kaya walang masyadong weight. Hindi ko alam kung character development ba ‘to na hindi na ko masyadong nagpapaapekto sa mga bagay-bagay, o wala lang talagang happenings. Pero feeling ko may something, at naninibago ako sa something na ‘to.

Ang isa kong napansin na pagbabago, ang tagal kong magbasa at magreply sa mga chats—which is unusual. Hindi na ko naaatat tulad noon na kapag meron akong unread messages, merong something sa loob ko na kailangan kong mag-reply agad. Hindi dahil feelingera ako na ang thinking ko nakaabang sila sa reply ko, it’s my obsessive-compulsive tendencies. Ewan ko ba bakit hindi ako mapakali. Parang nakikita ko kasi sya as blank squares sa to-do list ko na hindi ko pa nachecheckan. Pero feeling ko tumatak sakin ‘tong IG post na ‘to kaya rin may nagbago:

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Holiday Season 2024

Christmas Eve

Simula nung nag-move kami sa Canada, parang Dec 24 talaga yung Christmas day. Kasi ito yung day na may handaan at games. Samin kasi noon Dec 25 mismo may pakana. After 6 Christmases in Winnipeg, we celebrated this year’s Christmas in a different city with different people. Actually wala kaming planong mag-celebrate kasi sobrang preoccupied pa rin namin sa pag-move. Kung wala pang nag-invite samin, baka nag-takeout lang kami ng pagkain at nanood ng The Voice Season 26. Masaya na kami nun. Pero since naka-receive kami ng invitation from Kenneth’s former dorm mate, mas okay yun kasi makakakain kami ng mas masarap na food hehe.

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Life Updates | Galinda + French Class + Christmas Party in November

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Adult Friendships

I read this New Yorker article about friendship, ‘The Trouble with Friends’. Feeling ko, it was a reality check. Narealize ko, my hope and aim for friendships were too idealistic and childlike. Ang nakatatak sa utak ko, “Gusto ko lang naman ng someone ngayon kung pano kami ng grade school bestfriends ko noon.” Yung updated kami with every single little ganap ng isa’t isa. Yung tanggap namin yung pettiness, we talk every single day, walang nakikipag-compete, we want to hangout as much as possible, etc.

For some naive reason, I still hope for this kind of friendship. But this article opened my eyes to the truth: adult friendships are just different. Old friendships won’t be as tight-knit as before, and some will just slowly falter. Your friends, no matter how inseparable you were, and no matter how close you are until now, will end up in different geographic locations—ako pa nga yung isa sa mga unang umalis, so ano bang nirereklamo ko?

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Life Updates | Journaling Club + Succession + Spring is Here!

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I have found my people! I am so happy that my choices led me to finding them. I invited my online-to-real friend, Xiao, for brunch to thank her for helping me with Almond’s trip to Canada. Tapos sakto, merong stamp caravan event sa favorite stationery store ko (26 Market)—na malapit lang dun sa brunch place. We went to the stationery store after eating. There, I met a few fellow journalers. One thing led to another, and I got invited to join their bi-weekly planner hangout.

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Made it Out of the Group Chat! + Pagbilao Life + Valentine’s Dates | Pinas 2024 Pt. 2

Feb 10-14

DAY 6

Happy 60th Papa!

Few months ago, pinapapili ko ang Papa kung uuwi ako sa 60th birthday nya, or uuwi ako ng Pasko. Mahagad kasi masyado kung twice ako uuwi this year. Sabi nya Pasko na lang daw ako umuwi. Lahat kasi ng relatives namin na nasa abroad ay uuwi ng Pasko, so parang ang gustong sabihin ng Papa ay mas sulit kung Pasko ako uuwi.

After some weeks, tinatanong ko kung anong gusto nyang regalo. Ang sagot nya, “Gusto ko ay nandito ka.” Tina-try nyang sabihin in a joking manner pero alam kong he means it. Ang hindi nya alam, uuwi talaga ko sa birthday nya kasi hindi ko matiis na hindi umuwi huhuhu.

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2023 Highlights

  1. We got sick around the first week of the year so we spent the New Year binging K-drama and playing card games.
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