Gleniz da MenaceMay mga times na gusto kong magsulat dito pero sabog-sabog yung thoughts sa isip ko. Di ko alam kung san ba ko magfo-focus. May mga times din na instantly, alam ko agad kung tungkol saan ang gusto kong isulat. Sa mga times na ganito, na wala akong mahagilap na topic pero andun yung desire kong magsulat, nagsisimula ako sa kung ano bang nararamdaman ko.
Ano bang nararamdaman ko?
So pwede akong magsulat tungkol sa weather at ikwento na nag-s-snow nanaman.
Nami-miss ko na ang ulan. Maganda namang tingnan pag bumabagsak ang snow, kaso wala syang tunog. Ang ulan kahit hindi ka nakatingin sa labas, ramdam mo pa rin. Excited na kong mag-spring.
Dahil isa sa mga pain points ko during this season of my life ay making friends within our proximity, naaakit ng algorithm yung interes ko pag binibigyan nya ko ng mga content about friendships. Hence, it’s one of my favourite topics to talk about. May mga nabasa at narinig ako na tumatak sakin kasi sobrang naka-relate ako or talagang nag-resonate.
(According to past research) we need between 40 and 60 hours together for an acquaintance to become a casual friend.
It Takes at Least 200 Hours to Make a Close Friendship, and More to Maintain It — The Wall Street Journal
In order to move from casual friends to close friends, you need to spend an additional 140 to 160 hours together for a total of about 200 hours.
Dami kong tanong. Recently kasi, ang hilig kong manood ng mga Manila vlogs. Yung mga podcasts na pinapakinggan ko, gusto ko as much as possible Tagalog. Aliw na aliw rin akong manood ng Pinoy movies ngayon (kakatapos ko lang panoorin kagabi yung movie ni Regine Velasquez at Robin Padilla: Kailangan Ko’y Ikaw). Basta para bang uhaw na uhaw ako sa anything Pinoy. Ito ang mga tanong ko:
Dahil mahilig akong mag-journal at meron akong physical planner, naturally, magiging interesado ako pag nakakita ako ng article na ang title ay, ‘Everyone’s going analog’ or ‘The Analog Bag’ (analog bag??). Ngayon ko natutunan na maging extra careful sa mga kini-click kong links kasi once pumindot ako, kukuyugin na ko ng algorithm ng mga content na puros yun na lang. Nakakaumay!
Pag nakakakita ako ng mga videos ng mga farmer’s market haul, natutuwa ako. Parang ang saya nyang activity. Na-experience ko na sya dito pero hindi ako natuwa. Hindi kasi maganda yung farmer’s market dito sa Calgary—to be fair, isa pa lang naman yung napupuntahan ko. Pero ang layo rin kasi dito sa lugar namin. Tapos hindi sya yung farmer’s market na na-iimagine ko. Ang gulo dun sa napuntahan namin. Ang isa ko pang dilemma, once andun na ko, na-o-overwhelm ako sa nakikita ko at hindi ko alam kung anong mga bibilhin ko. But I think nakahanap na ko ng solusyon.
During our weekly heart-to-heart session last week, merong tanong dun sa couples deck na:
What’s your ideal day pag nag-retire ka na?
So inisip ko yung mga gusto kong gawin pag lola na ko, which is:
I’m three months TikTok-free (my longest TikTok detox yet?), and out of curiosity, I asked my cousin what’s happening there and what are the things I should know:
First, she sent me a voice message of her singing and bombarded me with videos of her dancing. Akala ko mga general TikTok dance trends yung sinesend nya. Yun pala dance trends specific to KATSEYE songs. I told her I would finally listen to their music.
I think the holiday season officially started for us when one of Kenneth’s college friends invited us to go on a holiday train ride.
Just like the previous year, I rounded up all my published posts and organized them around the recurring themes of this blog (paid posts are marked with an asterisk) . My utmost gratitude goes to those who find joy and comfort in my writing. I hope it was worth your time. When you love to write, being seen and heard means a lot. But probably the more compelling motive is my internal one. Writing is how I make sense of the world. Thank you for being with me on this voyage of self-expression and discovery.
Writing has so much to give,
Anne Lamott
so much to teach, so many surprises.
The act of writing,
turns out to be its own reward.
Gleniz da Menace